Five Ways To Recover and Bounce Back From Failure
No one likes to fail. It’s disappointing, embarrassing, and painful. Some find it easy to move on from failure and forget about them. However, these experiences can sometimes affect us deeper than we think and manifest as goal trauma.
When you start setting smaller and more reasonable goals, or when you stop setting goals altogether, you might be experiencing goal trauma. This can hold you back from growing as a person and achieving great things.
In this solo episode, Annemarie shares the five steps you must take to bounce bac k from failure. She talks about how sweeping failures under the rug can change our values and mindset. This episode teaches us that even if failure is painful, it can lead us to growth and success.
Listen to the episode to learn how you can turn failure into learnings and opportunities!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand how failures can manifest as goal trauma and how it can hinder our success.
- Learn to redefine the way you think about failure.
- Discover five steps to rise from failure and turn them into opportunities.
- Download the workbook and jot down relevant notes as you listen to/watch the show
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[01:33] Experiencing Failure
- We all experience failure, setbacks, and disappointments in our endeavours.
- Disappointments from failure can render us hesitant to pursue our goals.
- How you handle failure and disappointments reflects how well you can bounce back from them.
[03:08] Failures Can Create Goal Trauma
- Goal traumas are caused by past experiences that continue to give us anxiety, stress, and regret whenever we think about them.
- When you encounter similar situations in the present, goal traumas can make you anxious and distressed.
- This trauma also strips people’s sense of power and trust. You lose not only trust in yourself but also in others.
- You need to acknowledge your goal traumas and deal with them head on. If not, it can fully affect your core values, confidence, and trust.
[08:18] Rethink Failure As Opportunity
- See failures and bad experiences as opportunities for growth.
- After experiencing failure, some people avoid setting goals. Be honest with yourself and address your fears.
- None of us wants to fail. But, we can’t learn and grow without failure.
[10:13] First: Know That You Are Not Your Results
- Don’t dwell on disappointments. The more you spend time thinking about what went wrong, the easier it will be to point fingers.
- Instead, think about the things you can control to help you move forward. Empower yourself.
- Focusing on disappointments can impact your goal setting and create a cycle of failure.
- Remember that failures are feedback. They’re just a moment in time, and they do not define who you are.
- Use this feedback to discover where you will go next.
[13.57] Second: Don’t Throw The Baby With The Bathwater
- When failures happen, it’s easy to want to move on immediately and start from scratch.
- Take the time to reflect on your failures, for they are essential for your growth and improvements on your future projects.
- Even if you didn’t get the desired results, there would surely be things in the project that worked well, and you would want to continue.
- Be mindful and objective about your experiences. Don’t label a project that didn’t work as a complete failure; find what worked well.
- Anne Marie shares how she had a client who hated his job and wanted to leave but came to a startling realisation of where the hate was coming from. Listen to the full episode to hear the story!
[18:54] Third: Reflection Go Hand-in-Hand With Retrospection
- Reflection is looking back at what happened; on the other hand, retrospection is exploring deeper meanings and learnings.
- Always take the opportunity to retrospect experiences, whether positive or negative. Look for silver linings even when they’re not immediately apparent.
- Create the time and environment that encourages you to retrospect.
- Anne Marie shares how journaling helps her get thoughts out of her head and onto paper. It’s easier to see how much you’ve grown or persistent issues you need to address.
- In addition, she also offers her problems to the Lord.
[23:54] How to Find Silver Linings
- Anne Marie recommends breaking down the project into stages and detailing steps within those stages.
- Then, ask yourself what steps worked well, what should be continued, and what could have been better.
- Look into what resources worked well or what was lacking.
- How did you show up during the project? What are the aspects you are proud of?
- Assess whether you need to change your mindset and empower yourself.
[26:41] Fourth: Make Failures as Foundations
- Anne Marie shares that many of her principles were built from failures and disappointments.
- Your failures and setbacks are unique, and so are the learnings you gain from them.
- Anne Marie shares how she started the Women in Leadership Podcast right after a tremendous failure. At first, she used the podcast to deal with her grief and loss.
- By chance, her podcast reached two 4-figure clients; this made her who she is today. Her failure became the foundation for her success.
[31:45] Fifth: Don’t Lose Momentum
- Even if you didn’t get the results you wanted, you could still gain momentum.
- Think about your newly formed connections and get feedback from them.
- Don’t just scrap projects; move forward with them. Anne Marie shares in the full episode how a program that formerly did not sell grew into a program that sold out.
- Feedback is essential to help you determine what your clients need.
- Reflect on what you can build from the momentum of your last project.
10 Powerful Quotes From This Episode
“When you think about it, when you recall it you start feeling—you don't want to think about it anymore. It also increases your stress, and even a tendency to overreact”.
“When it comes to the project and the goal that you are working so hard on but towards it It caught on and it failed. This event, if you don't look at it and handle it properly, can cause you to trust yourself less, and have you playing small, trust other people and resources less. Therefore, what you may do is not seek the support you need, while also becoming more skeptical of the idea that anything is possible for you.”
“…something happens and it's such a significant emotional event that it can bind, it can tie itself it can bring all of the other things into life, it strengthens that time that binding so much, it becomes a it becomes a barrier, it becomes a block, it becomes a stronghold.”
“You are not your results. Don't dwell on your disappointments.”
“The moment we start pointing fingers, then it's disempowering.”
“spending time and thinking about that and unpacking it makes you feel anxious, disappointed and angry at yourself or maybe others. So if we don't look at that, guess what? We're going to throw the golden nuggets out and the learnings out and maybe even some of the teachings that we want to bring into the methodology that we share with clients.”
“Don't throw out the precious life or aspects of the project that did work well. Because you want to ignore the project altogether, because thinking about it makes you feel bad, you miss out on all those golden nuggets, and the things that did work well, and that you do want to keep doing in the future.”
“Don't label the entire thing as a complete and utter failure. Remember, success leaves clues and there's clues in failure and disappointments and flops as well.”
“When you have the courage to go exploring, go and find those golden nuggets, even from those projects that failed miserably.”
“…many of the things that I teach, many of the principles that I share today have been on the back of my failures and my flops.”
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Failure is a part of our lives and, most of the time, a source of our fears. Nevertheless, we must realise its significance to our growth and improvements as a person. Failure is not the end; it’s the start of a journey to success.
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