[Ep#226] From Adversity to Empowerment: Embracing Life with Trust and Hope

From Adversity to Empowerment: Embracing Life with Trust and Hope

Healing and growth are journeys. Every step you take is a step towards a brighter future.

We are thrilled to share with you the latest episode of the Women in Leadership Podcast. In this insightful episode, we sit down with the inspiring Ingeborg Mooiweer to unpack her incredible journey of overcoming challenges and turning them into opportunities for empowerment and growth.

Ingeborg Mooiweer is more than a guest; she’s a beacon of hope for many who have faced similar trials. Her story starts with a tumultuous childhood marked by her parents' divorce and psychological abuse from her narcissistic mother. Nevertheless, she soared in her professional life, achieving significant success in the luxury hotel industry. Now, she turns her experiences into a mission to guide others through their traumas and challenges, using a unique blend of artistic insight and strategic acumen.

Join us in this inspiring conversation as Ingeborg Mooiweer offers hope, guidance, and practical advice on overcoming trauma and reclaiming your inherent strength.

Here are 3 key takeaways from this powerful episode:

  • Impact of Early Experiences: Ingeborg shared how childhood traumas, such as codependency and people-pleasing, not only affect adult relationships but can also lead to physical health issues like high cortisol levels and disease.
  • Importance of Therapy and Healing: Connecting with your inner child and taking baby steps are crucial for rebuilding your identity and learning to trust yourself again. Therapy plays a pivotal role in this journey of self-discovery and empowerment.
  • Recognizing and Avoiding Toxic Relationships: Many of us tend to attract individuals with toxic tendencies due to past familiars. Trusting your instincts, setting boundaries, and surrounding yourself with trustworthy individuals are essential steps toward protecting your well-being and fostering personal growth.




Jump straight to these golden nuggets:

04:26 Exploring trauma, healing, and inner child recognition.

08:31 Fear and blame lead to losing identity.

14:04 Learning to trust people is scary but necessary.

17:16 Recognize and avoid narcissistic behavior in relationships.

20:15 Trusting instincts, setting boundaries in relationships.

24:30 Defining normalcy and values in therapy.

26:06 Challenge limiting beliefs to redefine possibilities ahead.

31:25 Small acts of kindness brought hope and progress.

33:19 Building trust and changing perspective through experience.


TOPIC: Personal Journey and Background of Ingeborg Mooiweer

– Childhood Experiences and Their Impact: Ingeborg recounts her tumultuous childhood, marked by her parents' divorce and enduring psychological abuse from her narcissistic mother. Despite these early adversities, she found success in the luxury hotel industry, demonstrating resilience and determination.

– Trauma’s Long-Term Effects: She explains how her childhood experiences led to lasting psychological patterns such as codependency, an inclination to people-please, and a state of hyper-alertness. These patterns, she notes, not only affect mental health but can also lead to physical health issues, including persistently high levels of cortisol and an increased susceptibility to diseases.

TOPIC: Psychological Patterns and Adult Relationships

– Rebuilding Identity Through Therapy: Ingeborg emphasizes the critical role of therapy in her journey toward healing. Through therapy, she was able to reconnect with her inner child and rebuild her sense of self. She advocates taking small, manageable steps towards change and self-trust, highlighting that profound transformation doesn’t happen overnight.

– Recognizing Toxic Tendencies: In the dialogue, Annemarie Cross points out a common tendency to attract people with similar toxic behaviors, often stemming from familiar patterns established in childhood. Ingeborg agrees, sharing that 99% of her clients report similar experiences, especially in romantic relationships.

TOPIC: Avoiding and Recognizing Narcissistic Relationships

– Narcissism Signs and Independence: They delve into how to recognize narcissistic behavior in relationships, emphasizing the importance of maintaining independence and being decisive. This recognition and autonomy are vital for preventing stress-related health problems.

– Impact and Role of Trustworthy Individuals: The conversation touches on how having trustworthy and supportive people around can significantly aid in rebuilding trust and changing one’s perspective towards relationships. Annemarie and Ingeborg both underscore the importance of these relationships for personal growth.

TOPIC: Empowerment and Inner Healing

– Hope and Internal Transformation: Ingeborg speaks about the profound importance of hope and internal healing in one’s journey towards empowerment. She stresses that the process is inherently internal and often involves significant emotional and psychological work.

– Significance of Small Steps: She continues by highlighting the value of incremental progress in personal transformation. Small, consistent steps are often the most sustainable and impactful in achieving lasting change.

TOPIC: Reconnecting with the Inner Child

– Importance of the Inner Child: Ingeborg discusses the necessity of acknowledging and embracing one’s inner child, which is often neglected or repressed due to traumatic experiences. Recognizing and addressing stored pain and trauma is essential for genuine healing.

– Addressing Past Trauma: She underscores the importance of confronting and processing past traumas to release the emotional pain that has been internalized over the years.

TOPIC: Steps Towards Personal Empowerment

– Trusting Yourself and Setting Boundaries: Ingeborg emphasizes the necessity of trusting one's instincts and feelings to set healthy boundaries. This self-trust is crucial in avoiding toxic relationships and interactions, especially with narcissists.

– Finding Personal “Normal” and Support Systems: Annemarie and Ingeborg discuss the importance of finding one's unique sense of normality. They stress the supportive role played by a close-knit circle of trustworthy individuals in this journey.


Women Empowering Women: “Women who've overcome challenges have rebounded after failures and disappointments and are not afraid to shine their brilliance to make a mark in the world.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:00:0300:00:56

“Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt”: “Fearfulness is what took me as well, and it took a long time to get that out of my, system. So maybe that's what, people recognize as well. And they, yeah, they blame always other people, and they have things happening to them, and they never take responsibility for it because other people were the one who did that to them, or there was situation.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:08:4800:09:14

Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: “You can't say no, because you've never learned how to say no. You've never learned how to meet your own needs.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:10:3100:11:19

Rebuilding Identity Through Therapy: “You need therapy to get back to your own identity, to the core issue, to build up that identity again because it's not lost.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:13:2400:13:29

Trust Issues: “So now you have to learn that most of the time, people can be trusted, and you have to use your discernment, and sometimes they'll come back there not to be trusted.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:14:4500:14:57

Toxic Relationship Patterns: “Recognizing that what you think is safe is not safe for you.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:16:3300:16:37

Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships: “If people do tend to go out and go on page and try to find someone in the beginning of the process, it's never going to work because they always attract subconsciously the same type of person. And you see during that process, like, towards the end, they start noticing the red flags.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:19:5100:20:06

Finding Your Normal: “And then, you know, the therapist said, well, well, we're going to find out what your normal is.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:25:2300:25:27

What Makes Us Human: “Because I feel like in a in a bigger sense as well, that's what makes human, that fire, that spirit, and that makes us seek solutions, do things, finding all these things which are happening in our world.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:28:1200:28:32

Hope in Dark Moments: “There were always someone like who came forward, or he or she did like a small thing, which gave me sort of hope.”

— Ingeborg Mooiweer 00:31:3400:31:43

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